Wednesday, December 8, 2010

Gilead

As you know, I'm not finished.  But, barring some incredible turn of events (or, more appropriately, the occurrence of any even whatsoever), I don't think it's important that I'm not finished.  Unlike any book I've read, at least that I can recall, I don't care what happens in the third I have left to read and I think this is part of the reason that I haven't finished.  I'm not anxious to find out what will happen next or how the story will conclude.  In a certain way, I'd rather that I never finish.  But in another way, I'm not sure I'll ever be finished reading Gilead, even after I read the last page.  I'll just start again, looking forward to discovering what I missed the first time and reconsidering my earlier reactions to the things I didn't miss.

There have been many since, but one of my favorite sentences from the book is: "A man can know his father, or his son, and there might still be nothing between them but loyalty and love and mutual incomprehension."  As both a father and a son, I am struck by both the meaning that sentence has as it relates to my relationship with my dad and the fear that "incomprehension" will be a part of my relationship with Cameron.  I don't know if incomprehension is necessarily a bad thing, and I suppose I may learn, but it certainly isn't a goal.

There are so many other passages that I'd love to discuss - only a few of them relate to fatherhood - and I'd be interested to know whether you guys would like to use this blog as a forum for exploring the meaning of some of them.  I think it might be one way of making the discussion more frequent.  Post a passage and provide initial thoughts in a blog entry and then use the comments function to discuss that particular passage?  And while I think there's a lot of ground to cover with Gilead, we can continue it with future books.

A few other things to get out:
  • If you don't read The Daily Dish, a blog on The Atlantic by Andrew Sullivan, I recommend it to both of you.  News, politics, opinion.
  • To follow up on some earlier entries, I still haven't seen the third Larsson movie.  I liked the second just as much as the first and I've heard great things about the third.
  • Do we all agree on BC in 2013 (without wives) and Brazil in 2014 (with wives)?  Aimee and I would also be interested in an earlier "with wives" trip to somewhere warm.
I know I had more to talk about.  I'll add in the comments.

Hope you're both well.

1 comment:

  1. "A man can know his father, or his son, and there might still be nothing between them but loyalty and love and mutual incomprehension."

    I read this as those are 3 constants between any relationship between a father and son. I think understanding that there will always be mutual incomprehension is an important part of being a good father, and a valuable lesson for any son.

    What she seeks to show us throughout the book is that love and loyalty are there despite the ever present mutual incomprehension. Fathers and sons fail each other constantly throughout this book but when it comes down to it, it seems they will go to any length for their child/parent.

    I don't have the book with me so I can't go it to too much more detail....

    I also can't commit to warm vacation, skiing, or Brazil....2014 is hopefully home upgrade year for the Moran's. But if your are all looking for a warm vacation, it gets hot as anything in Columbo in August!

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